Welcome To Singles Over 60 Dating Argentina

Getting the most out of your over 60 dating account

You have joined, or you are thinking about it. Either way, the difference between a profile that sits there and one that gets answered usually comes down to a handful of small things. Here are ten of them.

1. Put a photograph up

The single biggest thing you will do. Most profiles that get no attention have no photograph on them, and a good many members filter those out of their searches without thinking about it.
It does not need to be a good photograph and it certainly does not need to be you dressed up for an evening out. Outdoors, smiling, taken in the last year or two is plenty. There is more in our guide to profile photos.

2. Be specific rather than impressive

Almost every profile says the same six things. Honest, family orientated, likes travelling, enjoys a laugh. All true, all fine, and completely useless, because everybody writes them and they give a reader nothing to reply to.
"I like cooking" tells nobody anything. "I make a decent milanesa and I am still trying to get my mother's pastel de papas right" tells them you cook, that you do not take yourself too seriously, and gives them something to ask about. It is not better writing. It is just narrower.

3. Say where you are

This is a long country and people forget. Your province and your city is enough. Somebody in Rosario reading a profile with no location has no idea whether you are twenty minutes away or two thousand kilometres.
Nothing more precise than that though. No street, and nothing that would let a stranger find your door.

4. Write to several people, not one

Pinning your hopes on one profile puts far too much weight on one message, and it is the weight that makes people write badly. Three or four is a better start.
This is not being fickle. Nothing has been promised to anybody at this stage, and the same thing is happening on the other side of every conversation you have.

5. Keep the first message short

Three or four sentences. Pick one thing from their profile and ask about it. A page-long opening message puts the other person in an awkward position, because a page seems to deserve a page back and most people do not have one ready.
And ask something they can actually answer. "You look lovely" is kind and leaves them with nothing to do but say thank you.

6. Take your time, but not forever

Both halves matter. There is no reason to rush into meeting anybody, and if somebody is pushing you to, that tells you something useful about them.
But there is also a stage where messages back and forward stop telling you anything new, and a good many people stay there for months because it is comfortable. An hour in a café will tell you more than another forty messages.

7. Be honest about your history, briefly

Most people here were married, and for a great many of us it ended with a loss rather than a decision. That is the ordinary shape of things at this age and there is nothing to hide about it.
It does not belong in the profile though. A line is plenty. The whole story is for a conversation later, with somebody who has earned it, not for the first thing a stranger reads.

8. Say so plainly when you are not interested

If a conversation is not going anywhere, a short and friendly message closing it is far kinder than going quiet, and it takes ten seconds.
The same goes for what you want. If you are looking for company rather than a marriage, or the other way round, say so early. Nobody has ever been offended by being told the truth in week one. Plenty have been hurt by finding it out in month four.

9. Trust your instincts, and never send money

If something feels wrong, it very probably is. You have had six decades of practice at reading people and that does not stop working because the conversation is on a screen. You do not need proof and you do not owe anybody an explanation.
And the firm rule underneath all of it: never send money to another member, and never share bank details, a card number or a photograph of your DNI. Not for a plane ticket, not for a medical bill, not after eight months of lovely conversation. That last one is exactly how it works. Our article on dating scammers sets out the pattern and where to report it.

10. Let it be something you enjoy

Most messages go unanswered and most conversations fade. This happens to everybody, including the people not answering you, who are also being ignored somewhere else. It is not a verdict on you.
Send a few messages, then go and get on with your week. That is genuinely the method, and the people who enjoy this are the ones who hold it lightly.

None of it is complicated. Put a photograph up, write something that sounds like you, and send three messages this week. Join for free and see how you get on.